It is interesting to see how people define what makes a good mom.
A good mom cooks three meals from scratch each day.
A good mom breastfeeds each infant until they self-wean.
A good mom co-sleeps with her babies and never lets them cry.
A good mom homeschools all of her kids all the way through high school and gives them ALL a stellar education.
A good mom does crafts with her children, creating lovely works of art with them.
A good mom stays slim, exercises an hour a day, (with baby in a backpack) and does it cheerfully.
A good mom…..
Fill in the blank.
We all have these ideas in our heads about what it takes to be a good mom. We put so much pressure on ourselves to perform at ridiculous levels.
We worry that our children will be overweight if we don’t cook them a tasty, nutritious dinner each night and have them in 2 sports every season.
We worry that our kids will flunk out of college and live in our basements for the rest of their lives if we don’t kill ourselves teaching them algebra in the fifth grade.
We worry that our colicky babies will grow up damaged if we gently set them in a crib alone for 5 minutes so we can go to the bathroom and get a grip on our emotions.
Where do these expectations come from?
It seems that moms are really hard on themselves these days. Perhaps it’s the Pinterest/Facebook generation. But for whatever reason, we feel that we have to prove to ourselves, to our kids, to the world that we are good moms.
Here’s the truth of it. Here’s how to be a good mom.
Do the best you can.
Love your kids.
Listen to them.
Don’t let idealogy and parenting experts run your home.
Do what’s best for your kids and your family.
And most of all.
Pray. Read the Word. And trust Him “who is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy.” (Jude 24)
Don’t let unrealistic expectations rob you of the joy of motherhood. Parenting is easier than you think.